Fast and Easy Weight Loss Naturally With EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)

We all know what to do to lose weight. If only we could eat right and exercise more, the pounds would melt off. But know-how and will-power will never be enough. If you want to reach your ideal weight permanently, you must address the mental aspect; the least talked about topic for weight loss! This is why 95% of dieters return back to their original weight. But you don't have to be one of them.

Do you think there is a shortage of diet pills, programs, or how-to books promising the miracle cure? I didn't think so. I cringe at the commercials for appetite suppressant, fat burning thermogenic pills, and all the other garbage that tricks desperate people who have tried sheer will-power and thought that there was something wrong with them because they couldn't lose weight on their own. These companies prey on discouraged but overweight people because they know that in a moment of despair, you will try anything that give you hope to one day fit back into the skinny jeans you once fit into.

The problem with pills, supplements, and even programs, is that the mental aspect of weight loss is never addressed. They suggest that the answer lies outside of you. Their answer lies in a bottle. That is not where permanent change occurs. The real answer is within you, and has been there all along.

Lasting change happens from the inside out. Deep inside beyond your conscious thoughts; beyond your ability to control your actions, and beyond your will-power. Will power is no competition for your subconscious mind. If you can illicit the help of your powerful subconscious mind, you will find weight loss become effortless.

If you have an unhealthy relationship with food, there is a reason. And it's not because the food tastes so good! (Even though we'd like to think that!) The reason why food consumes your thoughts and makes you feel out of control is because you have an emotional trigger that has programmed you to reach for food.

Eliminate the trigger, eliminate your food addiction.

EFT (emotional freedom technique) is the fastest and easiest technique that I've found for losing weight quickly. It doesn't require any fancy pills, definitely no needles, and best of all- you can do it for free, by yourself. All it takes is a little self-education and self-discovery to find out what drives you to want to eat.

The science behind EFT acknowledges that any emotion is caused by a disruption in the energy system. These negative emotions get lodged and stuck in our energy system and resurface anytime we have a similar experience. With EFT, you are able to tap into the energy system by tapping on the meridian points on your body and remove the blocks, freeing yourself from the emotions of the past.

Let's use stress for example. When I'm stressed, one of my trigger foods is a DQ Blizzard. I will get in my car and drive to the nearest Dairy Queen and not even realize what I'm doing until I'm placing my order. There is comfort in that creamy and cool ice cream that makes me feel calm while I enjoy my treat.

But since ice cream is not a lasting solution to my stress, I immediately feel the stress level increase after I'm done eating. But this time the stress has a heavy layer of guilt on top of it from eating the entire blizzard I promised myself I would only eat half of.

Instead of heading for DQ, I can tap on my meridian points using EFT and eliminate the craving all together.

Here's how I would do it:

Tapping on the side of your hand (karate chop point), say 3 times:

Even though I have this craving for a blizzard because I'm stressed right now, I choose to feel peaceful

Even though I'm stressed and I want to make it go away with a blizzard, I choose to feel calm right now

Even though a blizzard would make my stress go away, I choose to accept this present moment

And then tapping on the meridian points (gently tap 5-7 times and repeat the phrase):

inside of the eye: this crazy craving for a blizzard

side of eye: I want a yummy blizzard right now

under the eye: a blizzard would make me feel better, and I really want to feel better right now

under the nose: I really want a blizzard

on the chin: I crave the creaminess of that blizzard

on the collarbone: a cold, sweet blizzard

on top of the head: I can almost taste it, and I want it now!

Just one round can immediately bring down the craving if you are specific enough. If it comes down just a little bit, but not all the way, try to do another round. Keep tapping until the craving goes away.

Once you master this technique, you will be able to make healthy choices in the present moment instead of allowing the food to control you.

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Feeling Like a Failure

Feeling like a failure is a normal human feeling. We all feel that way when we don't succeed. But that feeling of failure should be a pivoting point for you to help you push off in another direction or to analyze what went wrong or what part of the problem has you feeling like a failure.

Identifying the various types of failure

There are few "types" of failure. If you try something for the first time, and don't succeed, you can fail and perhaps feel like a failure. But such feelings don't usually last too because you are capable of being able to point out that this was your first try and who usually succeeds on the first try anyway? Very good perspective!

Then there is the feeling of failure that comes from working on a skill or a project, perhaps competing for a position or a prize, then not winning or succeeding. Those feelings of failure take longer to pull out from because you have invested much more of your time and your spirit into the action. The question is how much of your spirit was invested in that project and what is it going to take to get it back? Try again? Give up and walk away?

The third type of failure is the one where you haven't done a specific action or been specifically turned down but a continual feeling of not being able to succeed in life no matter what the area. This is sort of depression masked as feelings of failure. You don't feel very inspired and don't have much confidence in your abilities. This is where most people get stuck.

How do you get away from feelings of failure

To get over the feelings of failure, you must understand that first of all, it's only that, a feeling. You are not a failure. There are things that you can do, and do well. There are certainly talents that you got or skills that you can do better than at least one other person. Although life isn't a competition, you can see that perhaps you are a better cook, golfer or organizer than your brother or best friend. There is always something there in you that you can identify as at least "pretty good at" and focus on that.

To move on from failure, you need to reach for better feelings. OK, so you aren't a rocket scientist and you didn't invent Microsoft but so what? Look at you the people you admire or feel admiration for in your past. Many of these people are just ordinary people like yourself. Maybe you had a very inspiring high teacher. Maybe you admire a relative for their drive and determination to stick with it despite many difficulties. You don't have to be Superman to be unique and important in someone else's life.

When you are feeling like a failure, identify something about you that you are proud of. Focus on that feeling, that you can do something when you set your mind to it. Just reach for feeling just a little bit better feeling. You don't have to jump for joy but at least acknowledge that you can choose to feel better about yourself. And notice that you don't feel quite like a failure any more.

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How to Get Rid of Guilt From Your Life

When guilt sets into your heart, it feels as if you might never be free from this emotion. That, of course, is just an illusion because guilt is in your head. It's a feeling that settles in when you didn't follow your heart or when you misidentify the boundaries of your responsibility. You are not responsible for everyone or everything in the world. You are responsible for yourself, your feelings and how you choose to deal with your actions.

Determining the type of guilt you are carrying

The first thing you need to do to get rid of guilt is determine what type of guilt you are carrying around with you. If you did something to someone that hurt that person, you are dealing with one type of guilt. If you are feeling guilt because of what someone else is living or not living is the second type of guilt. And finally, the guilt we all feel that we are still alive when we have lost a loved one is a different guilt all together. Once you can identify which type of guilt you have, you can then determine your level of responsibility in the act.

Determining responsibility

The next step is to determine who's responsible for the action/non-action. Guilt can crop up from taking an action that hurt someone or from not taking the right action on your part. Or are you feeling guilty for something you couldn't prevent or cannot change? Many times, the boundaries of who's responsible for what or whom are easily crossed. Are you feeling guilty for the life that a loved one is living, one that you cannot do anything to change? Is that person living a situation that is of their own choice or responsibility. Often times we feel guilty for not being a better parent or for the failures of our children. While we have our part in their lives, ultimately, everyone has freedom of choice. We can all choose to empower or disempower ourselves from any given circumstance. Finally, how responsible are you for the death of another person, especially if it was an accident? Many times we aren't responsible for a car accident, an illness but for some reason taking on that guilt feels like the right feeling to embrace. But it isn't.

Letting go - Forgiving yourself

At some point you have to let go of the feeling guilt. Guilt will eat you up and drain you of all your energies. You have to forgive yourself for your mistake, action or non-action. Then you can begin to heal.

Begin by forgiving yourself for the situation, the result, the outcome. Then apologize, in person or talk to the person's spirit, memory or energy. Accept that it happened. It's time to move on.

Many things had to happen before the guilty act could be committed. Learn from this lesson. You will grow. Learn from this life lesson and move forward with the intention to not make this mistake again, become conscious of the 'what' and 'whys' behind your actions.

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EFT To Heal Your Heart - Step 1 - Release Resistance

EFT is a great tool for working with relationship pains. But even with EFT, this can be a long, painful process - unless you start by clearing resistance to releasing unwanted feelings. Beginning with resistance can make tapping so much more effective, and much less traumatic.

When it comes to relationship issues, resistance to letting go often shows up in these areas:

Blame and being right. It has to be someone's fault, somebody has to be right and somebody has to be wrong. The sense of power of being right (or fear that you weren't) can cause you to dig your heels in with resistance. Accountability. I'm afraid if I release this hurt, I'm saying it's OK what they did, and it's not OK. Connection. I'm afraid I'll weaken my connection to them by letting go of the pain, or anger or sorrow. (Even if it's an uncomfortable bond, it's a bond nevertheless.)Fantasies. Letting go of my feeling means letting go of my fantasies of what might have been and acknowledging that they will never happen. This could be a fantasy about how it could have gone, a fantasy of getting even, of hearing them say they're sorry.

Resistance can be hard to see because it's often subconscious. But tapping on possible resistance at the beginning of your session has a huge payoff.

If you're tapping on your own, assume that some of this resistance is going on for you. You'll be amazed at what a difference it can make to address resistance right up front. It helps things to release so much faster.

Here's how you can work with it your sessions.
You just do a resistance setup before doing your usual setup and tapping. I'll use the name "Tom" in these sample setup phrases. You can substitute any name when you tap.

Even though a part of me does not want to release this old Tom stuff, because I was right and he knows it, I want to love and accept myself anyway.Even though I don't want to let go of this Tom stuff because I'm afraid if I do I'll repeat this pattern, so it doesn't feel safe to let go of this Tom stuff. But I still want to love and accept myself.Even though I'm scared to let go of this old pain because what if it means letting go of Tom completely, and the good things we had together, I want to love and accept myself anyway.Even though I don't want to let go of this Tom stuff because I don't know how to untangle my good feelings from my bad feelings, and I'm afraid if I let go of any of them I'll let go of all of them, I want to love and accept myself anyway.Even though a part of me is resisting letting this go because I hold Tom accountable for what he did, and I'm afraid if I let this go, I'm saying it's OK that he did that. That feels like I'm betraying myself, so I don't want to let it go. But I do want to love and accept myself anyway, because I'm doing the best I can.Even though a part of me doesn't want to let go of this Tom stuff, because I don't want to let go of the hope of fixing it all somehow. It just feels too sad to give up the hope. But I still want to love and accept myself anyway.Even though I don't want to let go of this Tom stuff, because he should say he's sorry and acknowledge his part in it first, and then maybe I'll let go of it. But I still want to respect myself and all my feelings.Even though I don't want to let go of this old Tom stuff, because I don't know who I'd be without it. It's a story I've told for years, and I don't know if I want to give that up. But I still want to love and accept myself.

Next, move on to tap away the anger, fear, worry, hurt, regret, blame, sorrow - using a regular kind of EFT format, starting with a regular setup. And it will all release so much faster. Give this a try in your next tapping session.

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How Do You Metabolize Your Emotions

Emotions are not something that you wear like makeup or clothing. Emotions are not something that you acquire like a rash or a physical injury. Emotions are not something that are part of you like your skin. Emotions are like food. You cannot move through your handful of days without eating from the human emotional banquet each and every day. This is an "All You Can Eat" sort of Cosmic buffet. It caters to one and all be they rich, poor, educated or illiterate, male or female. This emotional buffet cares not whether you are a Christian, Muslim, Buddhist or Jew.

Many people forget that emotions, like nutritional food, are necessary for our very existence and well being, and like food, move through our system and hopefully become digested and metabolized. Too often though, we tend to hold on to our emotions for their metaphorical/symbolic significance. We often adopt our emotions like abandoned pets. We want to OWN them. Emotions MUST BE METABOLIZED and allowed to move through our entire system of consciousness. A person will often choose certain drugs like coffee, cigarettes, alcohol, chocolate as well as the more dramatic drugs, as a way of stimulating a specific emotional (or the memory of that emotion) response. These emotional memories are often selected as one would select an entree at a grand buffet. Often people will even come together and couple-up in an attempt to stimulate certain specific emotions within themselves as well as within the other.

We are not our emotions. Our emotions are but a lingering trail of experiential sensation. Our emotions are like a foggy breath on a cold morning or like the trail of after images left by a flashlight as you attempt to write your name in the dark night sky. Emotion is not the object, it is not the event. When we experience something we have a "feeling-emotion" about it, there is a slight time delay there, where we can assign a level of magnitude to the emotion (remember the emotion is NOT the experience). But once we assign a value and magnitude to the emotion which trails after the experience, we own it. Then the experience will move on but we will be left with the emotion (and the memory of that emotion). It will have become the event. Often we become wrapped up in these trailing emotions like tangled balls of yarn, rope, or chain. Often we cannot even find an end. "When did this start?", "How did I come to be so wrapped up in this emotion?", "Where did I pick up this feeling about??" "How did I come to feel this way?" And a very popular one, "When will it end!" At the same time we are lamenting the presence of one emotion we are often creating others. We own them as if they were real estate! They are not real. But often we become collectors.

Now how can we reduce our addiction to emotion, because that's what it is, addiction. Drugs are merely metaphors for preferred emotional states. Most habitual behavior is a searching for an emotional memory. So how can we reduce our incessant quest for emotional memories. Quite simple. Sit down, get quiet and simply "watch" your mind. Simply observe it. Don't argue, cajole or threaten. Just sit there and be quiet. It is an art of increasing the spaces, removing the old thought/image/emotions and not replacing them with...anything.

Some call it meditation. Usually when meditating I notice long trains of thought and image. The other day I was sitting with myself, being empty, but actually watching the train of thought going by, when I noticed that, like a real train, there were small spaces between the thoughts. It was as if I was parked at a railway crossing waiting for a long train to pass. I could see the spaces between the cars. At first I was fascinated with the rolling stock. What were the logos on the sides of the cars, how were they different from one another, where were they going, where had they been? Gradually I began to move my attention into the spaces between the individual thoughts, between the cars and then suddenly-I was in the clear, on the other side.

The lesson here is to go for the space and forget the content. Emotion is a process and not a product. Release the emotion, increase the space and embrace The Light.

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Finding the Root of an Issue With EFT: Low Self Esteem

Many times, when we're working on an issue with a lot of emotional pain-or physical pain-and it's not clearing, it can be because we're not being specific enough. You can look at it like peeling an onion, except this onion has a treasure in the very center-the core issue. If you stay on the level of the peel or the outer layers, you don't get to the treasure, and the issue doesn't get resolved.

Low Self Esteem

For example, "low self esteem" can be seen as an "umbrella" that spans over a number of core events. Anyone with low self esteem knows it's real and knows when they're feeling it. However, in any kind of psychotherapy, including EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), if we stay with just talking about or EFT Tapping on "low self esteem," nothing seems to change-or the change is very slow.

What Does Low Self-Esteem Consist of?

Let's start by peeling one layer off the onion, going from the umbrella to what low self esteem may be made up of? Just guessing, here are some possibilities:
I feel like I'm often wrong in how I think or what I say or how I actI feel like I AM wrong or bad, in my essenceI put myself down a lot; self criticismI feel ashamedI feel that I shouldn't have been bornI imagine others thinking badly of meI believe I can't do anything right, or that I often fail at what I try

An EFT Concept: Getting to the Core Issue

Zooming in on the above points, we can get to the core issue, through core events. Just picking one from above-"I feel ashamed"-let's think about when you tend to feel that way. Some possibilities:
When I make a mistake at work and my boss noticesWhen I slip on the ice and fallWhen my hair doesn't work out right in the morningWhen a friend tells me I don't care about them because I didn't notice something about themWhen my spouse or partner gets angry because I didn't respond correctly when they told me something about themselvesAnd on and on and on

Now we're getting to something more specific!

Getting to the Core Event

Usually with something as big as self esteem, it started in childhood, with specific childhood trauma, specific childhood events, or patterns of events. So, picking one of the things from above--let's say, your spouse or partner getting angry-ask yourself, when have I felt this specific kind of shame around someone getting angry when I didn't listen or respond correctly? For example, I've had clients whose parent suddenly got angry and told them they were selfish or purposely rebellious or bad. The child had no idea what she/he had done. When we go back to the event, it often turns out that the parent was often in a bad mood and the child happened to be there and didn't help them with whatever was bothering them. So they yelled at the child, putting them down for not noticing that the floor was dirty. Or the child needed something when the parent was trying to sleep or whatever. In any case, it usually had little or nothing to do with what the child was doing. Nor could the child-because it was a child-solve whatever was bothering the parent. You can see that childhood emotional abuse creates long-term emotional pain.

Criticism Creates Shame Creates Low Self Esteem

Nevertheless, this kind of criticism and shaming creates what we experience as the umbrella, low self esteem. Each time it happens is lumped onto the other times and now, whenever something happens that has even a flavor of the specific emotional pain that was created in the original events, the shame and low self esteem is there in the same intense way it was in childhood.

EFT Tapping Can Heal Low Self Esteem

When you can get to core events and use EFT Tapping on the feelings that arise when you remember specific parts of specific events, you're actually working on a core issue.Often, it will resolve and your day-to-day life will change. It's amazing how such horrible experiences as childhood sexual abuse, childhood physical abuse or other trauma that contributes to low self-esteem can often be healed relatively working with a psychotherapist that is adept at EFT.

Zoe Zimmermann, MA, LPC is a Certified EFT Practitioner and long-time licensed psychotherapist. She uses EFT Tapping as her modality for fast breakthroughs with core issues and specializes in clients who suffer with PTSD from accidents, surgeries, abuse, dysfunctional family dynamics, other traumas and physical pain.

EFT is an exceptionally effective energy psychology and alternative therapy, where EFT Tapping on acupuncture meridian pressure points is used to take emotional charge out of traumatic and painful memories and experiences, often alleviating pain.

Zoe conducts in-person, phone or Skype sessions. Schedule a session now by calling 303-444-1195 or visit Zoe Zimmermann's website.

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Getting to the Core Issue: EFT for Emotional Effects of Accidents

You might think it's obvious what the core issue is when you're working on healing pain from an accident-it's the accident! However, for two reasons, it may not be all that obvious. One is that sometimes PTSD from accidents triggers PTSD from previous emotional trauma. Another is that, although the accident might indeed be the core issue, it's important to get really detailed and specific when working with the accident.

What Causes Accident PTSD

Almost anyone who goes through an accident or any high speed injury, there are a number of parts to it: there are sudden sights, sounds, body reactions, emotions, smells, etc. Most of them happen so fast that we can't assimilate them. Our reactions start but don't have a chance to complete. All of that stays in our nervous system and our body. That's what we know as PTSD-all these stuck, incomplete reactions and all this emotional pain and physical pain.

EFT With Accident PTSD

To heal this kind of PTSD with EFT Tapping (or with any method), it's important to divide the accident into emotional parts. If the intensity of our emotional pain around it is so high that we get really agitated or even spacy, dizzy or floaty thinking about it, we first need to do some EFT Tapping in general without even thinking about any of the details-to lower the intensity. After that, pick out the most intense parts, notice what emotion(s) are attached to each part, and tap on the emotions. For instance, if the sound of breaking glass brings up fear, specifically tap on that sound and the fear around it. Then go through each part of the accident that brings up a spike of intensity, always asking what about that part brings up the intensity and what emotion it brings up, and EFT Tapping on both.

Accidents Can Trigger Past Traumatic Stress

Sometimes, when I'm working with clients on emotional pain and/or physical pain after an accident, there's a certain amount of relief, but it doesn't go all the way. Often this is because their unconscious emotional/physical reactions during the accident triggered PTSD from a previous trauma. One client, for instance, felt he was going to die during an accident and he had the floaty, spacy feeling that can accompany that. This triggered a time in his life where he was very depressed and wanted to die. We had to work on the earlier time in order to completely heal the accident PTSD.

EFT Tapping for All Kinds of Emotional Pain Issues

EFT is very effective for healing emotional pain and often physical pain caused by accidents. I've had a number of clients whose PTSD symptoms are gone after three to six sessions. EFT is also very effective in alleviating pain due all kinds of stressful and traumatic experiences.

Zoe Zimmermann, MA, LPC is a Certified EFT Practitioner and long-time licensed psychotherapist. She uses EFT Tapping as her modality for fast breakthroughs with core issues and specializes in clients who suffer with PTSD from accidents, surgeries, abuse, dysfunctional family dynamics, other traumas and physical pain.

EFT is an exceptionally effective energy psychology and alternative therapy, where EFT Tapping on acupuncture meridian pressure points is used to take emotional charge out of traumatic and painful memories and experiences, often alleviating pain.

Zoe conducts in-person, phone or Skype sessions. Schedule a session now by calling 303-444-1195 or visit Zoe Zimmermann's website.

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How to Feel When Someone You Know Dies

The loss of a loved one leads you into very murky emotional waters. Your own life and belief systems are thrown to the wind when someone you know dies. You question yourself, your existence and the whole purpose of the universe. Death leaves its mark on us no matter how close or not-so-close we were with someone who just died.

Death is as much a part of life as growing and maturing but our understanding of it is really very individual and personal. It takes some time to come to terms with death. As you grow older, it's easier to see that everyone's "time will come". And perhaps you can better accept death. What you need to do is reach for better feeling thoughts about this entire subject.

The Right or Wrong Way to Feel

There is no one right way to feel when you lose someone you know. Every emotion serves its purpose. And strangely enough, it seems that when encountering the death of another person we run the entire emotional gamut of pain, grief, anger and frustration to acceptance and peace. The best understanding you can have about dealing with grief and the loss of someone is to acknowledge that it is a process and that you will be thrown to the bottom of the emotional scale with this loss and now you job is to reach for better feeling thoughts as you move your way up this scale.

Time is the Key Element

It's a process and it takes time. Give yourself the right to feel each and every emotion that courses through you. The stronger your pain, most likely the stronger the love you felt for this person. But no matter where you are in this process, remember to be gentle on yourself and accept where you are each day. Some days will feel better than others. Some days will feel like you are back at ground zero. Accept and acknowledge where you are so that you can begin the process again of reaching for a better thought.

Reaching for Better Thoughts

How do you reach for a better thought? Any thought about the subject of death or that person that brings your relief is a better thought. Happy memories work well. Repeating statements like, 'Everyone has to go at some point' or your religious background and faith all help to bring relief. Thinking that there is something after this life helps enormously in dealing with these feelings of loss. As does thoughts that everything is working in Divine time and according to Divine plan.

No one thought or point of view is the correct way of looking at death. The only one that matters is the one that brings you relief or a feeling of peace and acceptance. Reach for those thoughts as you move through this process. And when it gets too difficult to bear on your own, seek counsel. There are professionals that can help give you advice, groups that can help you understand your feelings and books about the death experience that can bring you peace and understanding.

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Overcoming Fear by Faith

"[W]e now know that the human animal is characterized by two great fears that other animals are protected from: the fear of life and the fear of death... Heidegger brought these fears to the center of his existential philosophy. He argued that the basic anxiety of [humanity] is anxiety about being-in-the-world, as well as anxiety of being-in-the-world. That is, both fear of death and fear of life, of experience and individuation." - Ernest Becker

Anxiety or fear has been called the official emotion of our age. It is the most primitive emotion in our makeup. It is what makes babies wail at birth.

Advice columnist Ann Landers received something like 10,000 letters a month. When asked what seems to be the most common topic, she answered that most people seem to be afraid of something. When you stop to think about it, there are a lot of things to be afraid of: disease, cancer, earthquakes, war, rejection, failure, being stuck in a dead-end job, bad things happening to our kids, drunk drivers, the economy, and, of course, death. And then there are just the feelings of anxiety and fear that seem to have no explanation like panic attacks; living with the fear of fear.

The world is a frightening and unsafe place. Life is unpredictable. People can be cruel, uncaring, selfish and manipulative.

Psychologist Alfred Adler was convinced that our basic desire or hunger is for power; we want to be in control, and we feel not only uncomfortable but anxious, even fearful, when we are not. This is why we do our utmost to control circumstances and others. But the fact is we are really not in control of very much, if anything at all. The economy, terrorists, what others think or feel about us, and what or who is influencing our children, are not under our control. Neither is the weather, viruses, the cost of living, the future of the company we work for, going blind, having a stroke, the mood of our spouse, the unknown, or what happens to us after we die.

So let's be reasonable. If we really are on our own, if we really are not in control, if there is no God, or if we didn't know if he was personal, good or powerful or that he had our best interests at heart, then we have every reason to be afraid! We could lose anything and everything at any time. There is absolutely no basis for peace.

Yet the most repeated command in the Bible is "fear not", or "do not be afraid". In one place Jesus tells his followers not to be afraid even if your life is in danger, you have to testify before kings, are betrayed by family members, face persecution, are hated and rejected, or sentenced to death.

Not only does Jesus tell us not to be afraid, but gives us reasons for fearlessness: He is good, powerful, in control and present in every situation. The Son of God, he came, lived the life we should have lived, died on a cross and rose from the dead in order to give those who believe in him eternal life, security, acceptance and dignity. He dealt with THE ultimate fear - the judgment of God - by taking it upon himself, and thereby bringing us peace with God and peace within. His love is perfect, and it drives out all fear. So if you are afraid, put your trust in him.

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How to Use Tapping Techniques to Overcome Procrastination

Did you, know when you procrastinate it is costing you financially, mentally, physically and emotionally?

Also depending on what you are procrastinating on, whom or about. It can also have devastating consequences for your friends and family too. Think about it for a moment, what happens if you 'forget' to pay your taxes or mortgage payments? Your procrastination starts to affect more that you.

Procrastination in its simplest form is your own perceived fears and worries about future events. These future memories you build up and play over and over in your mind and body. It is the future pain which you think you'll experience that you are trying to avoid by not doing anything.

So how can tapping help you?

Firstly, most people are afraid of something or someone specific. It's too easy to say I'm afraid of success or I'm afraid of failing. That may be true, but it's is too easy, it's too global a statement.

It's better to answer the following: If I succeed what will happen to me then? Or, what pain am I avoiding by not finishing what I want doing?

You see procrastination is just you putting of a perceived future pain. Nothing more.

You can easily start tapping:

Even though I don't know what pain I'm avoiding I deeply and completely love forgive and accept myself anyway.

Even though I'm afraid of a future event that hasn't even happened yet, I accept all of me just the way I am.

Even I'm worried what will happen when I leave my own comfort zone. I accept all these conflicts within me.

What about your family and friends? If you succeed how will they react? This is a huge area that will on some level be holding you back.

How can tapping help you here?

Even though I'm afraid to earn more than my parents. I choose to let go of this belief as it no longer serves me.

Even though I'm afraid I'll be shouted at like was when I was a child because I was successful then and my father didn't like it.

Even though I'm afraid how my parents will react when I'm successful. After all they struggled all their lives and told me everything had to be difficult. I chose to let this belief to as it no longer supports me.

Even though my friends don't like rich and successfully people and I really want them to like me. I deeply and completely accept all of me.

Try these EFT tapping rounds for starters. You'll be amazed at what can happen if you tap on these several times.

The sense of calm, maybe a few aha moments, projects that don't seem so big and are much easier to start.

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Making The Best Of Each Day in Living Healthier and Happier

When I wake up each day, it's challenging at times to get in the shower, get dressed and walk to and from the gym. Those are feelings people sometimes feel, when they know they have to do something to make progress. Investing time every morning into exercise and cardio can work wonders for your mind. Feeling happier, lighter, and more positive are just some of many benefits felt when you exercise daily.

Never in so many years have I felt this great by just doing a few minutes of jogging, or exercising at the local gym. I didn't progress by myself. It took being apart of a wonderful and positively uplifting community of like-minded individuals, in order to propel my mind into transforming my lifestyle. If you think you can, you're right. If you think you can't, you're right. The power to change is in our minds, and our beliefs is what drives us to do certain things.

Upon starting a change of lifestyle, I envisioned myself where I wanted to be. Not just with working out, losing 72 pounds in my 1st transformation, but where I desired to be, all around. In spirituality, business, life, relationships with others, and so forth. As I adopted a healthy habit of starting to exercise and get more into cardiovascular activity on a regular basis, I noticed a lot of things started happening inside of me.

First, there was the renewed feeling of hope. Then, there are times when my feelings of hope are seriously challenged. But, I just kept going, no matter what, and kept on exercising, because I was feeling some kind of way inside, and had an increased feeling that I could succeed in all I try to do. So, what I did was feel the feelings, swallowed it, and pressed on, because I try to hold out hopefully that not only will I build a better body, but everything else will faithfully fall into place.

So, by exercising and doing cardio each day, not only am I feeling better about myself nowadays, but, I'm able to run marathons; something I've never done in my youth. Back in Brooklyn days, I've walked from Flatbush Avenue and Nostrand by Brooklyn College to Gracie Mansion in Manhattan, and back to Brooklyn, but never jogged or did any kind of marathon. Today, as I have "gracefully seasoned", I'm feeling the youthful energy come back, by staying focused on bettering myself with a good daily diet, exercise, and engaging in cardiovascular activity, whether it be the treadmill at the gym, jogging outside at the local park, or jogging a marathon, if it's a full marathon, or half. And this year, I hope to run a half marathon in Philadelphia this summer.

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Overcoming A Lifelong Phobia Of Apples In Less Than An Hour

Some people have a nervous system that predisposes them to severe likes and dislikes. For example, some people eat only certain limited foods and cannot eat anything else. "Daniella" would not eat anything other than eggs and bread and butter in her childhood, and by the time she arrived at my office at the age of 30, this had expanded to pasta, meat, some cooked onion and the occasional tomato sauce. But she still could not eat fruit or vegetables, which she dearly wanted to.

I explained that I use Emotional Freedom Techniques and how it works. EFT for short, it is a combination of special acupressure with targeted releasing wording. This has the effect of releasing the energy disruption that causes negative emotions and unwanted behavior. We are then free to feel calm and enjoy the activities that we want to. I asked Daniella to bring with her some foods that she would like to eat if she could. Daniella arrived with a bag full of fruit and vegetables. She had some microwave cooked vegetables, an apple, and a bag of lettuce. We decided between us that we would target the apple to work on in this session, and leave the others for another time.

The next thing we did is check where Daniella was at that stage with her fruit challenge, so we can take it gently step-by-step till she could happily eat an apple. I asked her on a scale of 10-0, where 10 was the worst, to rate her apple challenge. Looking at or licking the apple was a complete 0, and to prove it, she licked the apple and felt nothing. So I asked her where the problem lay. She said it was in biting the apple, which was at an 8 out of 10.

So we tapped on "Even though I have this feeling about biting the apple" and also on the taste and texture. We tapped two rounds, and it remained about the same. Daniella then clarified the feeling by calling it an anxiety about biting the apple. So we used that, and we also introduced the 9-gamut, an EFT brain-balancing exercise, and the number went down to a 5. After another round like this, it was down to a 4 out of ten. This was very good. I explained to Daniella that she must not try to eat the apple unless the number is all the way down to zero. We then tapped on different aspects as they came up, including fear of biting the apple, fear of chewing it, fear of the hard skin, and so on. The numbers went to zero, and Daniella eagerly grabbed the apple. I then instructed her to just bite and spit it out as I tapped on her, which she duly did. Then she took a bite and chewed and swallowed it!

It took less than an hour for Daniella to overcome a lifelong block in her path, and she was absolutely delighted. I gave her EFT instructions in case she wanted to continue the work at home, which she said she was keen on doing and we parted with a happy hug. EFT is truly remarkable. I am so pleased that Daniella is now finally free to enjoy this simple pleasure of life; eating a delicious apple!

? Suzanne Zacharia 2011. My name is Suzanne Zacharia and I am committed to spreading the word about health options. I believe that the more and better options one has, the more choice there is. And of course, you are advised to consult with your medical practitioner before embarking on any course of alternative, complementary, or beauty therapy. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE "EFT How-to for You" and regular free EFT Tapping script samples in my newsletter at http://www.eft-scripts.com/ - New to EFT? No worries, just get your own copy of "EFT How-to for You" and start EFTing with ease very soon!

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Living Free by Healing Our Past Lives

Some statements, comments, and questions from my clients: "I have always felt guilty. I don't know why." "I don't trust anyone except myself - not ever." "I have always been afraid. Don't you think that's weird?" Do these kinds of comments sound familiar to you either from yourself, your friends, your clients? Of course as a "good" therapist, I confront and ask the basic question of, "Never? Not ever, ever?" or "Always?" And some clients, not all, reply, "No, never!" or "Yes, always!"

Now, I am not just talking about your client labeled "chronically mentally ill" (is there a such thing? I think not); nor your, seemingly, "new age" type of client; however, I am, also, talking about your college professor, your physician, your local politician, your certified public accountant (what I find a very pragmatic grouping of people).

These people are stating that they have "always" felt this way. And so I ask them, "Were you born this way?" Many people first pause, and then slowly say, "Yes, I think so." They tell me their pause is because they are shocked at their response. "How can this be?" they ask me. Well, how can this be?

I ask these individuals if they are interested in getting at the root of their problem even if it involves past lives. Many say that they would be interested, but that they do not believe in past lives. "That's okay," I tell them because maybe we won't end up there at all, but rather in past generations or in their early childhood or when they were in the womb. Most people are willing to experiment with me.

Let me take a moment to explain past generations. You are the genetic composite of all of your ancestry. That's a lot of people. Jung would call it the part of the collective unconscious. "The knowledge of all that is." If fear is in your family history - such as on your father's side ~ and his father, also, experienced fear, then the thought or feeling or the incident can get handed down to you in a completely unconscious way.

Did you know that people can go back into their ancestry and change that past so that it no longer affects or haunts them today. Yes, it's true! We can change our script of today and our script of yesterday, as well as our script of the future. Many successful people such as those who are in business and sports know how to do this. They plan their future and then live out this brand new and improved future ~ leaving them much happier than they were before!

Regressing into early childhood is self-explanatory. However, I feel it necessary to address the types of conditions that can affect one when in the womb. The chemistry of the mother's womb environment is affected by moods. If the mother experiences stress or anger or depression, the fetus will "pick up" on these emotions via the particular chemicals that flow through at that moment in time. If a child is not wanted or if a fetus is a boy and the parents want a girl (or vice versa), he or she knows all about it while in the womb. I understand that this is hard to believe, yet through hypnosis and regression, these same facts come out over and over again.

If a person comes to a therapist, it is because they want some help - or they wouldn't be there. In starting off with regression work, I always (yes, always) teach people self-hypnosis first not only because all hypnosis is self-hypnosis, but because I want them to be able to go home and experience self-hypnosis when ever they want ~ for themselves ~ and to learn to put in their own suggestions.

Next, I ask their inner or subconscious mind if they are willing to go back to the root of their problem. In another article, I will discuss what to do if the person response, "no" ~ so for now, let's assume I have received a "yes" response.

And now for the purposes of this article: Approximately five out of ten people wind up in another place and in another time and in another body. Probably two out every ten people end up in either past generations or in the womb. That is a very high percentage of intelligent people who do not believe in past lives ending up experience a past life. And each and every time, I am as astonished as they are - even though I see this happen repeatedly.

The advantages of doing past life regressions are numerous, but by far the biggest benefit is the relief people experience by living through the life that started the guilt or fear or anxiety or other trauma and resolving it thoroughly and completely. People are able to go through horrendous lives with ease because of the precautions, "bail-outs," and safety procedures that have been put in place during the self-hypnosis lesson.

Below are a few true examples of life-time problems cleared away at the "root" for individuals. The clearing and healing of these problems generally take place during the session. However, once in a while a person may need another session. Examples 1 though 4 are described as a) the person and issue ~ and b) the cause:

1. a) A physician constantly experiencing guilt: b) as a child in the 1800's accidentally burned down the family home by knocking over the lantern and mother burned to death.

2. a) A professor never trusting anyone except self: b) smothered to death by mother in the 1700's because mother didn't want child.

3. a) A CPA often experiencing fear: b) orphaned in early 1900's in Africa and cast out from tribe.

4. a) A politician never felt good enough: b) in the year 909 AD, born disabled and set out to die on mountain top.

Are these thing true or not? I leave it up to you to decide. All I know is that these people experience a true relief because they have called to tell me how relieved they are and how well their lives are currently going. Regression can be an exciting adventure!

Judy Lavine
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Human Survival Tools

We, as human beings, are emotional and feeling creatures; each with an individual "soul contract" ~ depending upon what we chose or needed to learn during this lifetime. Although we all know we have emotions, some people exert enormous effort denying or suppressing feelings. When a client tells me that he or she is angry and I ask them, "How do you know?" ~ they look confused and say, "I just know!"... and go on to explain the particulars of their situation.

Actually, the reason that we "just know" is because we feel a "bad" or sick feeling some place in our body. And because that feeling is fairly uncomfortable, our brain kicks in and generally says, "Yuck, what that!?!"

Hopefully, this "yuck feeling" will force us to identify the feeling and then label it ~ so that our mind will seek resolution. The trick is ~ to tell ourselves to find the meaning of this feeling, rather than take prescription (or other kinds) of drugs to suppress it.

Now how do we know when the problem is solved? Simple! The "bad" feeling is gone. Actually it's not a "bad" feeling even though it feels yucky... it is an important signal that something in our life needs attention or healing or fixing. Thus, it's a yuck feeling with great intentions!

It is analogous to recognizing how we know if we are hot or cold or comfortable. If we are hot, our body signals us by sweating or feeling sticky (yes, a genius body we have) and the word "hot" floats down to land in our mind. Our body got uncomfortable and our brain stuck the label "hot" on it. Yes, indeed, we are brilliant all around!

OK, now what? We've got the feeling and we intellectually know what's going on ~ so, yes, now what? Guess what? Our experienced mind lets us know what to do about it. If we are cold, our body sends things like shivering or goose bumps signal; our brain says, "Aha, I recognize this ~ cold;" and our experienced mind lets us know how to fix the problem. Yet if we are comfortable, we never even think about it because our body has no reason to send us any signal at all. Everything is fine.

We know when we are angry or depressed or anxious or sad. We know because we get a particular feeling in a specific place in our body. And then, of course, our brain goes into its rational mode trying to reason out 1) its meaning and 2) what to do about it. Thus, our emotional, feeling self drives our rational, thinking self.

And if it's true that our rationality - our ability to think for ourselves - makes us different from the rest of the animal kingdom, then we are in big trouble as a race!

And why is that? Fair question. If our feeling drives our thinking... oh, not the type of thinking that allows us to invent things or make improvements, but rather the type of thinking that influences our decision-making regarding people, relationships, situations, ourselves... isn't it scary to think how many people are using drugs (prescription, legal and/or illegal) to mask or deny our feelings and emotions? In this country, as well as others, people may be legally forced to take medications for the sole purpose of deadening emotions.

Drug companies spends a huge amount of money, time, and effort researching psychiatric medications to purposefully mask emotions because it is easier to "squash" a feeling than it is to deal with it. People with deadened feelings are easier to control... especially when they forget their originating complaints. Also, there are many of us who think that life would be easier to live if only there were a pill that could take away pain, anger, anxiety, and more. Of course a drug can never take it away, but it can camouflage it until such time the feeling gets larger and larger and one needs an increased dosage of drugs to keep it hidden and larger and more until...

... okay, they are still breathing, but are they alive? Perhaps we better reconsider the importance of emotions to the survival of our human race.

If we take the time to thoroughly learn what our emotions feel like, we can develop understanding and appropriate coping skills which, in turn, can allow us to live our lives clearly, fully, and completely. What chance do we have if our feelings are numb? If we get a "yuck" feeling somewhere in our body and have no idea what it is signaling to us because we either suppress or medicate it, how can we take care of it so we can feel good again?

And so in learning to take care of yourself: Do you know what each of your feelings feel like? Can you describe them - temperature, size, movement-wise? Where do they live in your body? If you feel anxiety do you know that because you feel a fluttering or a sinking in your stomach or your chest or throat? Everyone's feeling is uniquely different. How does your body send a sign that something in you needs attention? Can people taking emotion-suppressing medications or street drugs feel fulfilled? Attain spiritual growth? Fully and completely enjoy life?

How do I know existence depends upon emotion and feeling? I could be "all wet." Yet, consider this: a) we preach that being nicer, kinder, more understanding, loving thy neighbor (not necessarily like as some people are not nice) will make the world a better place. We do not say high tech will make the difference (though high tech makes life easier). And b) we say to make ourselves a better people, we must nourish our souls. We do not say nourishing our wallet will make the difference (though money makes our lives easier). Our feelings are our signals, our consciousness, our very survival tools.

P.S. Maybe even a Shaman blessed gemstone bracelet can help! Who knows?

Judy Lavine
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Certified Alternative Healing Consultant
? Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, Diplomate # C027
? Crystal and Energy Teacher
? Healer
? Lic. Mental Health Counseling #3387
? Metaphysical Minister, Msc.D/Ph.D
? Nat'l Cert Rehab Counseling #20059/#943
? Psychiatric: Rehab Counseling, (ScD, abd)
? Reiki & Feng Shui: Master
? Teacher
? Shaman: Master Teacher
? Healer
? Neuro-Linguistics Programming: Trainer of Trainers

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Modern Energy Therapies - Emotional Freedom Technique

Thought is one of the biggest components of disease - Thought is also energy...

Strangely enough, our whole body system and the way it works is fundamentally based on energy which is the most fundamental and essential ground of our being. EFT therapy is based on energy rebalancing, a fundamental approach of all energy medicine. All of our biological processes have a living, pulsating, vibrant, energetic foundation and are affected by the thoughts that we think and beliefs we hold. We can now even measure our own energy fields with modern scientific instruments these days which validates its existence.

In fact the existence of the ancient acupuncture energy meridians, once mapped out by Chinese physicians thousands of years ago has now been verified by such testing. This is exciting, Why? because it gives us the opportunity of addressing all dis-ease, illness, pain and emotional disturbances, whether thought-induced or as a result of physical injury, using energy methods, such as eft tapping therapy, that are practical, easy, quick and essentially non-invasive.

Energy Medicine is Here to Stay

Energy medicine is truly the medicine of the future and signs of its emergence as a powerful cure-all have already begun. Emotional freedom tapping and other energy therapies can be used to gain optimal health and well-being, by getting to the root of any problem, rather than just focusing on the traditional approach of ongoing symptom management. It offers the promise of really empowering each and every one of us with effective self-help methods for our own self-care with tools and techniques that can be carried out in the comfort of our own homes.

It is a powerful tool for integrating all aspects of ourselves, our minds, bodies and spirit.

We now have at our disposal, with EFT techniques, Reiki, Acupuncture, Reflexology, the Emotion Code work and other newly emerging energy modalities, the means to clear away all of the energy blockages that until now have been preventing us from radiating out and sharing our true and wonderful inner light with the world. And the beauty of this new way of healing is that, until it comes into its own amongst medical circles, it can still be safely used alongside conventional treatments without any dangerous side effects whatsoever.

It heralds a new way of taking charge of your health

Since everything in the universe is fundamentally made of energy, change our energy vibrations and we literally change our world, both inside and out. I believe there will come a time in the not too distant future when drugs and surgery will end up being only a last resort and when working with a patient or client energy field, to release trapped energies will be the first line of treatment for any diagnosed illness. Fitness will be much more about doing things to keep our energies vibrating well and from becoming blocked so that the energy channels are flowing nicely in tune with optimal health and a positive outlook.

You can learn to use energy medicine with practical hands-on techniques to clear and enhance the energies in your body, support your natural ability to heal, release stress and raise your feeling good vibrations. EFT tapping is one of the most popular of the energy therapies around today. It is quick to learn, easy and quick to apply and is considered to be about 80-99 per cent effective, mainly depending upon the skill of the practitioner or the one doing it. It is something you can learn to do by yourself and apply at home whenever the need arises.

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How To Say NO to Compromise and YES to Your Health

When I was interviewed for the Inner Healing Compass teleseminar series, I talked about how setting healthy boundaries can prevent long term physical pain and illness. I've considered this a lot lately, because it seems that most of the work I do with clients is based around feeling safe enough to set boundaries and avoid compromise.

One of my clients felt compromised and the result was that her allergies flared up.

I did an emergency EFT session with a client a few weeks ago. Her allergies had flared up and she'd experienced a migraine. She had guests staying in the house and she was highly sensitive to their clothes due to the laundry detergent they used, amongst other things.

After asking her a few questions, it became obvious that she felt extremely compromised and pressurised because of the guests in her house. She felt she had to be an attentive hostess, fun and energetic, and confessed she didn't enjoy people staying in their house. In fact, she didn't want people in the house at all. She was exhausted and frustrated. No wonder her body was expressing its discontent in the form of allergic reactions.

Set boundaries before your body has to set them for you.

For the sake of our health, it's important to learn how to set boundaries; otherwise, if we continue to compromise what we want and need, it comes down to our body to do it for us - usually in the form of chronic pain, or potentially serious symptoms.

Through using EFT with my client, she was able to tap away the frustrations she felt, and the anxiety about future guests staying with them later in the summer. She decided - easily - that she would ask the next people coming to see them to stay in a local hotel. She felt relieved, and empowered. It felt right to create boundaries which supported her.

Tap away your anxieties, or resistance, about looking after yourself.

If you like the idea of this, but you're thinking, "Well, I could never do that. What would they think of me? It's easier to compromise", you may find the following tapping transcript helpful.

Tap the karate chop point on the other hand while saying the following:

Even though I'm afraid I'll offend them, what if I don't?

Even though they may not like it, I deserve to consider what I need

Even though I feel uncomfortable setting boundaries and honouring myself, I'm willing to do my best anyway

Now tap the following places while saying each of the phrases below:

Top of head: I want to set some boundaries

Eyebrow: but it all feels so different and uncomfortable

Side of eye: this could change everything

Under eye: and I'm not sure I want to risk that

Under nose: what if I upset her?

Chin: what if I don't? Collarbone: what if it fulfills her needs, too

Under arm: because then she'll know what to expect?

Liver: I'm open to the possibility that this could work for both of us

Wrists: and our relationship will be even easier, more respectful, and more enjoyable as a result.

After you have tapped through this round, write down how you're feeling and any new thoughts which have come up, then tap again, changing the wording if you need to. Remember, the phrases you use are simply a way of outwardly expressing how you're feeling. You don't need to be creative - just state what's on your mind and tap through the points.

Annabel Fisher is a licensed NLP Practitioner and runs a successful EFT practice. Find relief from pain, chronic illness, fears and phobias, headaches and migraines, weight issues and more through EFT. Get your free "The Essentials of EFT Guide" plus one-hour EFT Q&A audio recording by signing up for her newsletter at: http://www.theefthealingcentre.com/

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How to Get Rid Yourself From Feeling Stuck Emotionally

When you are stuck emotionally, you feel that you are truly caught between a rock and hard place. This feeling can have you immobilized and unable to take any kind of action. The key to unlocking this feeling of being stuck emotionally is understanding this one key element: it's all in your head.

Your emotions are an indicator of what you're thinking and what you're living. They let you know whether you are listening to your heart and taking action accordingly. When you aren't listening to your heart, your inner voice, and you're actions don't reflect what you truly desire in your mind, then you'll have negative feelings, feelings that get you stuck emotionally. It could be depression, it could be anger, it could be fear. The emotions that are getting you 'stuck' are just your mind's interpretation of feeling split between heart and 'doing what you think you are supposed to be doing'.

The key to freeing up this feeling of emotional standstill is to see yourself in a place of empowerment rather than a place of disempowerment. You empower yourself or reclaim your power and thus your emotions through choice. When you choose what you want to do, how you want to feel and where you are going to go, you feel your power surge through you, bringing you focused energy and fulfillment.

So where do you start? You know that going from feeling disempowered over a situation to feeling one of empowerment isn't as easy as it sounds. This is true. There are a few stepping stones on this emotional path. So where do you begin?

Begin with where you are. That is, begin to regain your power by choosing the moment at hand. Choose to embrace the feelings that are pulsing through you. Even if these emotions are fear and pain. Acknowledge them, acknowledge that this is where you are right now, this is how you feel right now and it's OK. Accept them as part of who you are right now.

Next, you begin to choose to do the actions that have you feeling stuck in your life. There is a huge difference emotionally to stay, 'I have to do this' as opposed to saying, 'I choose to do this.' To make this process a little easier, start with actions that aren't very threatening to you, such as choosing to do the dishes, get dinner ready or fold laundry. Say it out loud as you perform this or that action and accept that you're doing it by choice, that no one is forcing you to take this action.

As you feel more comfortable with this process you can then move towards using it on the heart of your problem, the thing that really has you emotionally stuck. Just choosing to feel sorry for yourself in the moment is an empowering moment for you. You don't need to stay in the self-pity but it's a stepping stone to feeling perhaps angry. That will be an emotional step up from feeling disempowered over the situation.

When you can move towards emotions that will lead to more positive action such as letting go of the situation and forgiveness you'll notice your power coming back into you. When that happens, you'll see that you've gotten yourself out from feeling stuck emotionally. That feeling of freedom is the difference between choosing this feeling over that one.

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Stress, Health, and Wealth

How you're able to deal with stress, will determine your wellness and wealth. All types of emotional and physical disorders can be caused by stress and thus effect mood and behavior. All of our thoughts enter our system as energy and those carrying emotional, psychological, mental, or spiritual energy are stored in cellular memory as biological responses. Learning to minimize stress is a function of mind-body activity that can be facilitated tremendously with hypnosis.

Stress shows up in everyone's lives. It can come from our relationships, work or home environments, or any other situation. Our actions to stressors dictate how we're affected and unfortunately many of us easily become overwhelmed. Millions of people around the world are trying to cope with the consequences as we deal with the challenges present in 2011. Much helpful information is available through The American Institute of Stress at stress.org where you'll find 50 common signs and symptoms.

We try to not let stress and anxiety affect our relationships but it often does. When we find ourselves uncharacteristically being rude to co-workers or short with our loved ones, even snapping at defenseless children, it's easy to see something needs to change. The behavior makes us feel even worse, which tends to increase stress levels even more, compounding the problem.

Hypnosis can often break the reactionary chain by giving us the tools we need to understand what the stress and anxiety is doing to us. When we "react" rather than "act" typically there is an underlying subconscious program producing that behavior. Caroline Myss, Ph.D. says, "Every thought you have had has traveled through your biological system and activated a physiological response." "Some thoughts are like depth charges, causing a reaction throughout the body." She provides an example of the physical manifestation of symptoms related to fear, where heart rate increases, the stomach may tighten, or you may breakout in a sweat. A hypnotherapist can calm anxiety and teach the patient how to activate thoughts and physical actions that can help alleviate those unhealthy reactions.

Sometimes there may be no logical reason for a fear. It is then you can be sure a subconscious memory from an unpleasant experience is activating that automatic reaction. Example: A dog that frightened you as a child may be responsible for your aversion to dogs as an adult. "Viewing the event" again through access to the unconscious mind can then permit the logical conscious awareness to recognize there is no reason to "hate dogs".

Hypnotherapy offers options to deal with anxiety and stress in such a way that reprogrammed behavior provides desired actions. You will be able to deal with everyday stress in a positive rather than a negative manner. This unfortunately does not mean that you'll simply be totally and permanently shielded from the effects of stress. Events in our lives can be serious enough to challenge wellness over an extended period of time. An example would be dealing with the stress and consequences of a job loss. The competent therapist will help you understand that the "unemployment stress" need not be viewed as an absolute all or nothing event. "Positive" and "negative" define the same continuum and you have the ability to move your wellness gage in a healthier direction with specific thoughts and actions which can be learned.

Learning to mentally affect your physiology is one of the healthiest of undertakings available to you. Your body will thank you; so will your family and friends. Stress is linked to everything from the common cold, to AIDS, and cancer. A hypnotherapist can help you activate powerful tools available to reduce stress and boost your personal mood and wellness.

The author, R.D. Cooper, C.Ht has maintained a curiosity regarding deeper sense of self, connectedness to others, nature, and the spiritual dimension for over 25-years. He is a student, teacher, and guide who believes: Logically, if unconscious beliefs largely guide daily behavior, either limiting or empowering... why wouldn't people want to truly understand how to powerfully step into The Greatest Reality Show on Earth... the one they write the script for everyday... and unlock the full potential of their original blueprint? Hypnotherapy does just that. Roy is associated with Wendy Hill, M.A., CCHT, a certified clinical hypnotherapist specializing in transforming self defeating core beliefs. You can learn more about hypnotherapy and Wendy Hill at her website, http://www.sandiego-hypnotherapist.com or http://www.wendyhill.com.

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Stop Procrastinating Now With The Emotional Freedom Technique

Procrastination is defined as putting off or deferring action until a later time. For some people, that time never comes. Putting off things that need to be done can cause a domino effect that can be disastrous. Having the power to stop procrastinating now can be a freeing experience. Being able to get things done in a timely and easy manner can help eliminate stress, physical problems and depression.

Whether it is simply doing household tasks, homework or work, procrastination can be detrimental to one's way of life. Procrastinating about small things can be annoying but habitual procrastinators that put off making major life-changing decisions can ultimately slow their lives to an almost complete standstill.

It can also impact their life in ways such as comfort, safety and mental well-being. Although most people are conscience that they are procrastinating, they do not know how to stop it. This can be a torturous phenomenon as they know that they have to accomplish certain tasks yet cannot seem to bring themselves to do them. Because procrastination is a natural human trait, it is difficult to shake without proper help.

People procrastinate for many different reasons. Some because they are afraid of failure or success. However, most people procrastinate because they do not like the task. Even though, in most cases, they will inevitably have to do the task anyway, they simply cannot. Once you know the cause of your procrastination, it is easier to manage time and get more of those dull chores done.

Emotional Freedom Techniques have been used by therapists for years to help fight the battle against procrastination. It uses a very simple pattern that enables procrastinators to tackle their problems head on. It allows them to view the things they procrastinate in a different way so they can stop procrastinating now.

Emotional Freedom Techniques give the procrastinator a set of guidelines and exercises to follow to help them stop procrastinating now. These exercises reprogram the brain to think differently about daunting tasks and letting go of the underlying emotional causes of problems.

It is a proven fact that people who view mundane tasks from a concrete viewpoint instead of an abstract viewpoint tend not to procrastinate. Emotional Freedom Techniques can help train people to view those tasks in a concrete manner by the use of simple guides.

Imagine having a life that feels complete and stress free. The power to charge forward and take on new, challenging tasks can ultimately be a life-changing experience.

Emotional Freedom Techniques are one of the best solutions for stopping procrastination in your life right now.

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